"Success is to be measured not so much by the position
that one has reached in life as by the obstacles
which he has overcome while trying to succeed."
Booker T. Washington
My Dad did accomplish a lot, but I believe
he overcame even more than he accomplished.
He
was the oldest boy in a family of eight children.
See a list of his brothers and sisters.
His own father was left
fatherless at a very young age, so my grandfather was a "self-made"
man. This meant that he had to work hard to help his
mother make a living. When he had a family of his
own, he taught all of his children to work hard. They
each had their own jobs. Being the oldest son, my Daddy had to help with the crops at a very tender age, therefore, he was forced to drop out of school.
They raised corn, cotton, and sugar cane as well as a large vegetable garden. Daddy got an education by watching others and observing. Daddy was
very skilled playing dominoes and later taught his own children to play the game.
Even with very little schooling, my Daddy became a very good mathematician. He could add in his head faster
than others could with their paper and pencil.
He
not only had the handicap of little formal education, but
he had the handicap of having only one eye, due to an
accident when he was very young. As far as anyone could tell, though, the one eye never hindered him in any important
way. He could fish with 2 poles and watch both corks
better than others could watch their one. Daddy never acted as though he were handicapped in any way and never expected any consideration because of it.
Growing up as
he did, he acquired many bad habits. Drinking was
probably the worst one and led to another accident that
injured his hand and he lost half of four fingers on one
hand.
The drinking almost made him lose his wife,
too, because it was almost more than she could bear. She
had four children, needing their Daddy's support. Her
own family was overloaded so there was no help from
them. All she could do was pray that he would quit. She
asked me to help her pray that Daddy would quit drinking
and we did. She told me in later years that she made a
point to pray at night with Daddy listening beside her in
bed. She also said that I told Daddy that we were
praying that he would quit drinking.
About this same
time we had a preacher, Mr. David Boozer, who
visited the families. Mr. Boozer liked Daddy and he liked to
visit us. I don't know if he ever talked to Daddy about
his drinking, but Daddy liked him and it was during this
time that he decided to quit drinking. He said he had finally realized he could not take the first drink and quit. He left 2/3 bottle of whiskey on a shelf in the top of a closet all the while I was growing up.
He never touched it
and never drank at all after that.
That was June, 1945.
Our lives then began to
improve considerably.
He trusted Mama to
give him advice, and she helped him in many ways.
Townspeople who knew that he had quit drinking began
to help by giving him a loan to buy a pickup truck and
another helped by recommending him for a foreman's job
with the Louisiana State Highway Dept. He proved to be a good employee and retired from there after many years of
service. He was never afraid of work. He had learned at
an early age how to work and he worked hard. He also
became a deacon in the church, serving faithfully until his
death. Even after he was suffering from the coronary
artery disease that claimed his life, he worked to repair a
plumbing problem at the church.
Daddy was a skilled hunter and trapper, providing food for his family, but fishing was the love of his life and he knew how to catch them. There were many enjoyable meals of fried, white perch at our house, and it continues to be a favorite food for all his children. Neighbors often reaped the rewards of his fishing trips, also.
After retirement, he was on a lake somewhere
almost
as much as he was home. Toledo Bend Reservoir
had just been built and even though it took almost 3 hours to
get there from our house, he made many trips there to
fish. My mother went sometimes, but there was little
enjoyment for her on these trips. She just went to
appease him.

My Daddy was a good man
and I loved
him.